When you have children and they don’t get their way, they may whine, “Mom, you’re being mean!” Children can’t expect to have their needs catered to constantly if they do they will grow up to be entitled monsters.
We all know when kids are tired, hungry or overstimulated it doesn’t bring out their best side. As parents, we need to set boundaries or we wouldn’t be doing our job. It is our job as parents to set limits if you allowed your kid to eat 8 cookies in one sitting they would probably be overweight and have impulse challenges.
When you are told that you are mean or your child tells you that they hate you, take it as a compliment, you are probably doing something right.
Here are a few fun comebacks that might come in useful, next your child complains what an unfair parent you are.
10 Best replies when your kid calls you mean
1. If you think I’m mean, it means I am doing my job as mom. If I was nice you could call me Grandma.
2. Yeah, I’m a proud member of mean moms of America.
3. You’re grounded until the end of the world or until I say different, whichever comes first.
4. I can understand why you might feel that way, but my job is to keep your safe.
5. I hear what you are saying, and I always want what’s best for you, even if it doesn’t feel that way right now.
6. I hear you, and I want you to know that I’m always here to support you and I am on your team.
7. I love you, and that’s why I sometimes have to make difficult choices for your own good.
8. I’m not really mean, I’m just preparing you for the reality of life.
9. If I am easy on you the world will be very hard. If I am hard on you, the world will be easier.
10. No matter what you think I want you to know that I love you.
how to deal with your kid when you are setting boundaries and they think you are mean
When setting boundaries with your child, you will want to acknowledge their feelings while also standing firm in your decisions. Have a conversation with your child and explain why have made certain choices that you feel are in their best interests.
Let your child share their point of view, listen and validate their feelings and let them know that they are entitled to their opinion. Share that your intention is to protect them, even if it means not giving them their way in the short term. Be empathetic, and let your child know that you understand how they feel.
Let your child know the reasons that you are setting boundaries and why you think it is in their best interests. Tell them. you can discuss the boundaries, and as they age they may be entitled to more privileges in the future.
Kelly’s daughter who thought she was mean because she wasn’t allowed to go to a sleep over
Kelly’s daughter, Emma, was ecstatic about the upcoming sleepover at her friend’s house. She approached her mother, Kelly, asking for permission to sleep over. After talking it over with her husband, Kelly gently explained to Emma that she wouldn’t be able to go to the sleepover. Disappointment clouded Emma’s face, and she exclaimed, “You’re so mean, Mom! Why can’t I go?”
Understanding Emma’s disappointment, Kelly sat down with her daughter and empathetically listened to her feelings. She explained the reasons behind her decision, citing concerns about safety and the need to adhere to family rules. Although Emma was very upset, Kelly reassured her that the decision was made out of love and a desire to ensure her well-being.
As the evening progressed, Kelly and Emma engaged in an open and honest conversation. Kelly shared her own experiences of facing similar disappointments in childhood and how she learned valuable lessons from them.
Kelly agreed to let Emma attend the event, but she would be able to stay overnight. They both came to an agreement that was acceptable for both of them.
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When you are dealing with a person who say if your kid thinks you’re being mean and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counselor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
