Ask Bryn
My sons live in girlfriend is disrespectful, rude and dismissive of me. I have been told that I am extremely fun and I have tons of friends. What to do? I don’t want to be around her anymore and I guess will stop attending holiday dinners, etc. I do not deserve this from a 27-year-old woman-child.
Kiki, UK
WANT TO BE ABLE TO SPEAK UP FOR YOURSELF?
Our FREE Starter Guide will show you the 3 simple steps you can take right now to stand up for yourself so that you can feel confident. It’s a game changer–get it free for a limited time!
Hey Kiki,
Your son’s girlfriend sounds like she is behaving in an unkind and inconsiderate way towards you. The thing is, right now she has your son and you don’t want anything to come in between your relationship, especially her.
I would continue to go to family dinners but I would sit away from his girlfriend and engage with her as little as possible. Be polite but keep your distance.
By being polite and not engaging in a massive way, your son will hopefully see his girlfriend’s behaviour with his own eyes and leave the relationship.
If your son asks why you are not around as much, explain that you feel unwelcome
Here are some things you can say to your son’s girlfriend if she is dismissive
1. I really value open communication and would love to find common ground with you.
2. I understand that we may have differences and different backgrounds, but I hope we can still treat each other with kindness and respect.
3. I care about my son’s happiness, and I hope we can build a positive relationship for his sake.
4. I believe that we can work through any misunderstandings and create a more harmonious environment for everyone involved.
5. That is a hurtful thing to say.
6. Judging another person does not define who they are…it defines who you are
Good luck!
Bryn
More top ten comeback lists you might like
The Role of counselling and self care
I Should Have Said Media will earn a commission after clicking links on this page at no additional cost to you. Learn more.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.
my sons girlfriend live with us splitting the cost..she thinks that she doesn’t have to do anything anymore bills or clean the house and has become disrespectful to me and the mom especially when he’s gone and thinks she a queen .. the wife and I don’t want to hurt over son but it’s getting worse please help I want to get even with her .. thanks Ricky