It can be awkward if you are hanging out with someone, and they start bad mouthing some of your mutual friends. You know the old saying, “If someone gossips to you, they will gossip about you.”
Try not engage in conversations that tear other people down. You may not feel comfortable saying something back, but at some point, you have to stand up for your friends who aren’t there. If you don’t say something, you will become known as someone who gossips as well.
Don’t tell me what was said about me. Tell me why they were so comfortable to say it to you. – Jay Z
Mandy, who was in high school, had a nasty side, loved to badmouth others, and stir up drama. There was a teacher at her high school that she didn’t like because he called her on her bad behaviour in class. She started spreading rumours about her teacher and the other students, saying that he hit on girls and had flirted with her even though it wasn’t true. An evaluation of student safety was sent around to the classes, and she wrote down that this particular teacher made her feel unsafe even though he had never done anything to her.
The school principal talked to the teacher because of Mandy’s badmouthing. Luckily, the principal knew that Mandy was a troublemaker and didn’t take it any further. If the principal hadn’t been switched on, the badmouthing could have negatively affected the teacher’s career.
Use our clever comebacks and leave the person who badmouths others speechless. Let them know it is not OK to talk about people negatively.
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Top ten comebacks for people who badmouth others
1. A lot of problems would disappear if people would talk to each other instead of about each other.
2. Maybe if you quit talking about other people behind their backs you would quit worrying about what other people think of you.
3. If you go around bad-mouthing people behind their back, the risk you run is at some point that they are going to talk to each other.
4. There are two sides to every story. There’s the person complaining and the person that thinks the other is an idiot.
5. Too bad you can’t count jumping to conclusions and running your mouth as exercise.
6. Sometimes God has to cut down the grass so you can see all the snakes
7. If you ran like your mouth you’d be in great shape.
8. I believe in freedom of speech but some people need to know when to be quiet.
9. There are two sides to every story and usually they are both wrong.
10. I never judge someone by the opinion of another.
How to deal with a person who bad mouths other people
Do you know folks who just can’t stop talking badly about other people? Yes, they can be really painful to be around, but I have a few ideas that might help you deal with them. Check them below:
- Face the person – If you’re okay with it, just talk to the person who is saying bad things about you or other people. Tell them directly how their actions are bothering you and ask them to stop.
- Ignore their actions – Instead of getting upset by what they do, try to think about something else.
- Believe me – ignoring someone’s annoying behaviour is sometimes the best way to deal with it.
- Set clear boundaries – If you can’t get away from the badmouther, like that annoying friend or family member, it’s time to set clear limits. Tell them what they can do and what they can’t. After all, we all deserve to be treated with respect, don’t we?
- Find help – Trust me, sometimes just talking about how you feel and letting it all out can make a huge difference. So, don’t be afraid to ask your friends for help when you need it. They’ll look out for you.
- Be a good example – Dwelling on the negative doesn’t really do us any favours. It’s not as hard as it sounds to be a source of good vibes. You can start by being mindful of the words you choose.
So, instead of getting upset and worried about other people, why not try to approach the problem with a smile? When you give off good vibes, it’s like a magnet that pulls in good people and good feelings. So, let’s make it our goal to make strong connections with the people around us.
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Famous people who have been known to badmouth others
Here is a list of famous people who have been accused of saying bad things about other people:
- Kanye West – Kanye has made quite a name for himself as a master of badmouthing, both in his songs and in public. No one is safe from his sharp tongue and controversial comments, not even Taylor Swift or Jay-Z.
- Joan Rivers – The legendary comedian never held back with her witty remarks and sassy sense of humor. She had this incredible ability to throw shade at other celebrities and public figures, leaving us in stitches with her biting comments.
- Donald Trump -The former President is quite a controversial figure. He never held back when it came to criticizing his political opponents, the media, and even his own administration.
- Sharon Osbourne – The TV star has been accused of saying bad things about other people on shows like “The X Factor” and “America’s Got Talent.”
- Simon Cowell – Some say he’s got a knack for bad mouthing contestants and even his fellow judges on his shows. He’s not holding back when it comes to dishing out insults and belittling comments.
Now, here’s the thing: We all know that these bad mouthing claims can be tricky because they are often personal and can be affected by perspectives. So, the next time someone says something bad about you, keep in mind that there’s more to it than meets the eye. Keep an open mind, and don’t forget to consider the personal factors at play.
The Role of counselling and self care
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When you are dealing with someone who badmouths others and you find it stressful, consider getting support from a professional. Talking to a counsellor is a great way to work through a challenging situation, and help you find some strategies to work through the person’s behaviour.
Better Help is a great resource where you can talk to a counselor from the comfort of your own home.
Taking care of your own needs isn’t selfish, and you will feel better in the long run.
What if they keep laughing or just don’t care of the comeback that I said?
As the saying goes: Laugh with them. Say: I’m sorry you feel that way. Walk away. Walking away works for me since I’ve just taken control away from them. I have a downstairs neighbor who insists on badmouthing me to my neighbor next door because I won’t let her use my driveway. She called them up while they were on vacation in Florida crying that we won’t share our driveway with her so she got permission from them to use theirs. I heard that when they come back they are going to punish me and my husband for not being neighborly. The minute she moved in she caused problems and continues the drama. She thrives on drama and bad mouthing people and stirring up trouble.
Just get a smart aleck look on your face and walk away proudly.
If you just walk away they are the ones looking stupid because you didn’t have a reaction. All they want is a reaction out of you, but if you don’t give it to them and walk away, who’s looking dumb now.